I've had a few experiences with online dating so far in the last year. First it was LDS Singles which wasn't very eventful, second there was LDS Planet.....now on this website it was eventful from the very beginning I was propositioned to make out. I told the creep off before deleting my account. Recently I've been on match.com and surprise surprise! I've been finding guys and going on dates. There's a real science almost to this online dating. Questions such as: Is the picture of the real person? How do you know they're not a psycho? How do you say you're not interested?
I've learned how to deal with these questions because I used to ask myself these questions when I first started. When someone I"m not interested in sends me a wink;) or an email and i check their profile and they're not my type i simply do not reply. This way you avoid all awkwardness and move on. Even if you get someone who emails you asking why you weren't interested DON"T ANSWER! I did this once and it was a long dragged out therapy session with the guy. If he isn't confident in himself he will ask you and you don't want to deal with a guy like that because that is not what you are looking for on a website meant to find love.
When I"m really interested in someone I request to be their friend on facebook to do a little facebook stalking. Suprisingly when you become friends with them their facebook reveals the truth and that will set you free. Somtimes they lied to you, sometimes they were being competely honest, and sometimes you are pleasantly surprised by the individual. The nice thing about online dating is it opens up this whole new world to you. Getting to know someone with no pressure is great, going at your own pace and finally seeing that you are a desired individual. I wasn't asked on many dates in high school and in my early college years they were lacking, when i started online dating it made me realize I was someone whom lots of guys were looking for. I like having the attention and can I tell you it has been a great learning experience. So ask me questions about it, I do online dating the smart way.
I know what you mean. I have been to a couple sites and went on a few dates :( they were the worst dates I have ever been on, no one is very honest about themselves anymore. I have given up on the whole idea and just wait for the right opportunity to present itself :). I have found in my situation that's what works best.
ReplyDeleteI guess that's not completely true I did have one that went well but nothing ever happened
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